Going through a divorce can make the holiday season feel especially tough. The holidays often bring memories of family traditions and togetherness, which can be painful during a separation. With some planning and self-care, you can navigate this challenging time and find moments of joy for yourself and your loved ones.
Set realistic expectations
It is important to set realistic expectations for yourself and others during the holidays. Understand that things will be different this year, and that’s okay. You do not have to recreate past celebrations. Focus on what you can control and find ways to enjoy the season in a new way. It might mean smaller gatherings or new traditions, but it can still be meaningful.
Make a plan ahead of time
Planning ahead can help ease holiday stress. Decide in advance how you will spend the holidays and communicate this plan with family members. If you have children, create a schedule that works for everyone and minimizes conflict. Knowing what to expect will help you feel more prepared and less anxious. If possible, coordinate with your former spouse to ensure the holidays run smoothly for your children.
Lean on your support system
The holidays can feel lonely during a divorce, so it is important to lean on your support system. Spend time with friends and family who uplift you. Do not be afraid to reach out to those who understand your situation and can offer comfort. Sharing your feelings and spending time with loved ones can make a big difference during this time.
Focus on self-care
Prioritize self-care during the holidays. Do activities that bring you joy, whether that means taking a long walk, reading a good book, or treating yourself to a favorite meal. The holidays do not have to be perfect—taking care of your emotional well-being should come first. Give yourself permission to step away from situations that feel overwhelming or upsetting.
Navigating the holidays during a divorce can be challenging, but when you know how to proceed, you can make it through. This year may be different, but it can still be a time of reflection and growth.