Many of us post personal information online every day, including who we’re with, the food we eat or what we think. Some spouses even catch their significant others cheating after scrolling through social media posts.
According to a recent Loyola University Health System study, Facebook is cited in one of every five U.S. divorces. Legal experts say more and more people do their own online detective work if they suspect their spouse is having an affair. The bottom line is that what we post can significantly damage the outcome of divorces and custody cases.
Managing social media during divorce
The best advice, experts say, is to avoid using Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media app during this time. But that’s not realistic for a lot of people. Instead of venting, here are some guidelines to protect yourself during divorce:
- Mum’s the word: Don’t share any information related to your marriage or divorce, even if you and your spouse get along. Also, resist the urge to post intimate photos from happier times in your marriage.
- Be positive: Avoid posting anything negative, especially about your soon-to-be ex. While it’s OK to share positive messages and pictures, don’t include anything that could come back to hurt you in court.
- Security: Ensure that your privacy settings are at the highest level and ask your friends not to tag you in their posts. Unfriend those who will no longer be your friends after the divorce.
- It’s not complicated: Remove your relationship status from your Facebook profile. When the divorce is final, it’s OK to update your status.
- Monitor children’s feeds: If you have children who use social media, instruct them not to post anything related to your divorce. Online bullies and other unscrupulous people may try to take advantage.
Also, never use social media to dig up negative information about your spouse. If you have suspicions, share them with your attorney. Social media can be a wonderful way to connect with family and friends. It can also be a minefield if you post anything that hurts your chances for a reasonable divorce outcome and a fair custody arrangement.