Many people think that they will only feel relief when they go through a divorce. While it’s true that you’ll likely feel that, there are other emotions that are bound to come up. Some of these surprise people so they don’t know how to handle them.
Whether you want the divorce or not, you’re probably going to have positive and negative emotions as you go through the process and once the divorce is finalized. These might extend into the first year after the divorce.
Expect a roller coaster of emotions
You never know what will trigger your emotions to change. Some might shock you. For example, you may not miss your ex but you might realize that you don’t have anyone to share your successes with. That could lead to you missing having another adult as a companion.
It’s not always possible to predict what will make you emotional. One thing that’s important is that you learn to address the emotions as they come. Don’t try to just ignore them because they may end up overtaking you.
Some people who are going through a divorce lean heavily on their support system. It’s crucial that you make sure you only confide in people you wholly trust. Never discuss the divorce or anything that relates to it with someone who may feed your ex information.
As you’re going through the divorce, you must ensure that you’re making decisions in your best interests. This isn’t always easy when things get emotional. Having someone on your side who can help you to learn the options for each facet of the divorce can take some of the stress off you.