For parents, one of the hardest things about getting divorced is often that the children are unhappy with the new living situation. They feel stressed because they have to move back and forth, from one parent’s home to the other.
Naturally, parents want to reduce the stress their children feel and generally just lower the impact of the divorce on their lives. Is there a way to set custody up so that this type of constant shifting from one home to the other isn’t necessary?
Nesting may be your solution
If you’re in this position, you may want to consider the process of “nesting” or “birdnesting.” No matter what you call it, this arrangement just chooses a singular family home. The kids never have to move and just live in that one home, as they did before the divorce. In many cases, parents keep the family home that they already owned, so the children literally do not have to move at all.
The downside is that this shifts the responsibility of moving to the parents. You have to move in when the schedule says you have custody of the kids, and then you have to move back out when it says that your ex has custody. You and your ex also have to share things like bills and living spaces; you may not use the house at the same time, but you both do use it, and you have to coordinate things properly.
Even if you do not decide to do this, it helps show that there are creative solutions and you need to consider everything as you look into your legal options.